Long distance relationships can be really difficult, however, they also have benefits...
1. Seeing your partner never stops being exciting
If you see your partner every day, you're bound to eventually run out of things to do together. However, when you are in a long distance relationship, you can come up with a list things to do together and fulfill them during your next visit. Even if you go to the same restaurant during every visit, it still won't get old because time has passed and it feels new to you all over again.
2. You have extra time to spend on yourself
Everybody needs days that they can dedicate to taking care of themselves. Whether you need time to get a mani-pedi and put on a face mask and chill out, have or a night out with friends, you never really have to worry too much about it interfering with time you should spend with your significant other. If you have a close relationship, you can even skype/facetime them while also relaxing in pajamas, wearing a face mask, and watching TV. If you need a night out with friends, chances are they will be doing their own thing during that time, so you're free to do so.
One of the hardest parts about long distance relationships, is also one of the things that can make them so great. Due to the lack of physically being together, you get the chance to form a solid emotional bond because talking is all you really can do from a distance. It's amazing how extending the amount time spent in meaningful conversations can bring you and your partner so much closer. You get to know each other on such a deep level that you can better understand who they are as a person, their strengths & weaknesses, what bothers them & makes them feel appreciated, and so much more. All this insight you get into their life can help you better maintain a happy and healthy relationship and make time together so much more meaningful. After all, a strong friendship is the perfect foundation for a strong relationship.
4. You get a chance to do/see things you never otherwise would have
Spending lots of time in one area can get extremely boring. Being in a long distance relationship gives you the opportunity to explore the touristy areas of where you live, that you never would have gone to otherwise. You also get to explore their area and see what kind of places your partner spends their day-to-day life in. Maybe they always go to a certain restaurant, bowling alley, park, etc. Visiting their area will allow you to get to know these little quirks and get involved in them by visiting your partner's favorite spots. You may even pick up a new hobby!
5. You get the space to grow as an individual
Sometimes being in a close relationship can make it hard for you to separate yourself from your partner to go out and do things on your own. Since you don't often get the luxury of spending time together in a long distance relationship, it can give you the chance to become an independent, well-rounded individual. You can go out and make your own friends and hang out with them, all without having to feel guilty that you really needed that time to be away from your partner. Your partner can also do the same thing, which takes lots of pressure off the relationship as you never have to decide whether or not to bring them when you go out.
6. Everything you do is unique
From gift giving to how you show your love, everything done in a long distance relationship is unique. Most couples never get to exchange an old fashioned card in the mail. It may not seem like a lot, but it shows that you put in the effort of getting/making a card, stamping it, and dropping it off in the mailbox; proof that you were thinking of your significant other without them being around. Love can be difficult to express over the phone/text so sometimes you need to get creative. That may involve lengthy good morning/good night messages, sweet voicemails, and so much more. Spending holidays with their family is, of course, very unique. Many couples will never know what it is like to be so communicative about love with your partner, but it's a great feeling. Some day you'll have amazing stories to tell your friends about all the issues you have overcome in order to stay together. What makes your relationship unique, makes it special.
7. Every visit feels like a little vacation
Visiting your significant other gives you a chance to get away from the monotony of routine. Yes, traveling long distances is annoying and a hassle, but once you get there, you can relax and be in vacation mode. It feels so soothing to know that for the length of the trip you can put your worries aside for whatever is going on at home and just relax and have a good time with someone you love. In typical relationships where you don't get to travel far from home, often, those worries can creep up on you and disrupt the time you're supposed to be using to have fun with your significant other.
8. You never run out of things to talk about
Due to leading geographically separate lives, often you miss out on interesting events in each others' lives. When you finally get the chance to talk to your partner after a long day, you may have tons of stories to exchange. You can talk about what happened at school/work, what you've been up to all day, something funny that you heard/saw; the possibilities are endless because they weren't there to see those things themselves.
9. You learn important life skills
From all the time you spend dealing with miscommunications, planning trips, and travelling, you will learn some pretty important life skills. You'll learn how to be patient, compromise, plan, and shove clothes in a bag as compactly as possible. These lessons may at first seem only applicable to you relationship, but they are super important in every aspect of life. Having a fight with a friend? Well, you know from your relationship how to compromise and diffuse anger before it boils over. Planning to go on vacation? You already know how to find the cheapest flights and keep yourself entertained during them. There are endless amount of useful lessons that you can learn from a long distance relationship.
10. Your relationship is very committed
Due to the fact that long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain, you and your partner are unlikely to easily give up just because of a petty little fight. When you fight for a relationship with everything you have, it's difficult to just accept defeat just because an issue has come up. Arguments that may break up other couples are no match for your commitment and communication. Distance is far more difficult to deal with than most arguments you will face and will be much easier to handle. It's not very likely that someone would endure spending hundreds to thousands of dollars on flights, spending hours on Skype, and dealing with the hassles of travel, if they didn't have sincere love for you. While some people may assume infidelity is a concern, you can rest assured that your partner is far too committed to you to ever jeopardize the relationship you have.
11. You learn more about who you are and how to better yourself
Somewhere along the course of your relationship, you're bound to find that you're at fault in some arguments. You will go through so many hard times that will expose a side of yourself that you may not like. Since you have so much space from your partner, you have time to reflect on yourself and decide to make changes for the benefit of your relationship. Changing yourself for the better can also help you in current and future friendships.
In conclusion:
Although long distance relationships are difficult, there are so many benefits. Even when times are tough, always remember to look at the positives and keep pushing forward!
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